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How to dress for your first Libertine party?

Woman getting ready for a libertine party

It’s time to take the leap and attending your first libertine evening or swinger party. Libertine parties are a great way to explore your sexuality and meet new people who share your spirit and interests. But before you go, there are a few things you need to think about and know to help you have a great time.

Like, what are you going to wear? Or do I even need to get dressed? Underwear or no underwear? Full lingerie set or just normal going-out clothes? Will I be able to have a wash there, or will I have to come home to shower? 😬

Let’s answer these questions, and more below ↓

Mindset: Respect yourself and others

It's important to be respectful of yourself and others. Libertine parties are all about consent, so make sure all parties involved consent before engaging in any sexual activity. If for example a potential partner, male or female, pushes your hand away when you approach or shakes their head, it’s a pretty clear sign that it’s a no go.

It's also important to be aware of your surroundings and to be mindful of the other people at the event.

  • Set boundaries. Decide what you're comfortable with and communicate those boundaries to your partner or partners.

  • If you can, attend with a person of confidence or a friend. It can be helpful to have someone with you to support you and make sure you're safe.

  • Do your research and talk to people who have been to this type of event before. This will give you a good idea of what to expect, but it will help reassure you that you are going to a safe place.

  • Some clubs are better rated than others. Some people too. And part of the goal is to find yourself around people that are on your wavelength - that are there for the same reasons as you.

Hygiene: Wash, rinse, repeat!

Don't forget about hygiene! Libertine events are very intimate, so it's important to take cleanliness seriously.

  • Take a shower or bath before you go, and be sure to wear clean clothes.

  • You may also want to carry some breath mints or gum. There’s nothing worse than getting close to someone you’re attracted to, only to find bad breath.

  • Use protection. Always use condoms and other barrier methods to protect yourself from STDs and STIs. If anyone tries to persuade you otherwise, they are not to be trusted.

  • Once you have finished relations with someone, jump in the nearest shower! Especially if you’re planning on getting close to someone else later on.

Woman dressed at a libertine party

What to wear to a libertine party?

Tonight you're going to express yourself. Above all, you need to feel good in your outfit, comfortable in body and mind. And sexy - after all, the aim is to feel sexy.

So before you go out and buy an outfit, ask yourself these questions:

  • Do you have any preferences in terms of visible body parts?

  • Basically, what style of underwear do you like? Garter belt or not, for example?

  • Is there a dress code? Sparkles, colour theme, masks etc.

Libertine evenings are often characterized by their extravagant and provocative nature, where attendees express their freedom and explore alternative lifestyles and sexual practices. The dress code for a libertine party can vary depending on the theme and specific event, but it generally encourages bold, sensual, and risqué outfits.

It's important to be prepared for anything. Libertine parties can be very casual or very formal, so it's best to err on the side of caution and dress for both. You'll want to wear something that makes you feel comfortable and confident, but that's also appropriate for the setting. If you're not sure what to wear, ask the host or hostess for advice.

Here are a few suggestions for what you might consider wearing:

  1. Provocative attire: Choose daring and revealing outfits that accentuate your best features. This could include low-cut dresses, sheer fabrics, lingerie-inspired garments, or leather and vinyl ensembles.

  2. Corsets and bustiers: These can enhance your figure and create a seductive silhouette. Pair them with skirts, stockings, and high heels for a classic libertine look.

  3. Private party or club : If you're going to a club, I recommend wearing a dress - with or without lingerie underneath. And, of course, high heels.

  4. Masquerade masks: Masks add an air of mystery and allow for anonymity, enabling people to explore their desires more freely. Consider a beautifully crafted mask that complements your outfit.

  5. Fetish-inspired fashion: If you're comfortable exploring fetish aesthetics, you could incorporate elements such as latex clothing, harnesses, collars, or BDSM-inspired accessories.

  6. Playful accessories: Experiment with statement jewellery, feather boas, glamorous wigs, or headpieces to add a touch of extravagance and playfulness to your ensemble.

Remember that the most important thing is to feel comfortable and confident

  • Dress for comfort and confidence. You want to feel good in what you're wearing, so choose something that makes you feel sexy and confident. Avoid anything that's too tight or restrictive, as you'll likely be doing a lot of moving around.

  • Be mindful of the dress code. Some libertine parties have a specific dress code, so it's important to check ahead of time. In general, though, you'll want to err on the side of being more dressed up than underdressed.

  • Consider your personal style. What do you feel most comfortable and confident in? If you're not sure, try experimenting with different looks before the party. There's no right or wrong answer, as long as you feel good in what you're wearing.

  • Accessorize. A few well-placed accessories can really elevate your outfit. A pair of heels, a statement necklace, or a playful hat can add a touch of personality and sophistication.

  • Don't forget the basics. Make sure you have clean, well-fitting underwear and socks. You may also want to pack a robe or cover-up in case you get cold or want to take a break from the action.

  • Be prepared to take it off. Libertine parties can get pretty steamy, so it's important to be prepared to take off your clothes. If you're not comfortable being naked, you may want to wear something that can easily be removed, such as a dress or skirt with a slit.

Finally, relax and have fun!

Libertine parties are supposed to be a celebration of sexuality, so let loose. Be yourself, and be open to meeting new people and trying new things. Remember to stay safe, don’t be afraid to say no, and leave when you are ready.

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