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Anal Plugs: what’s the squeeze?

An anal plug, also known as a butt plug is one of the best sex toys available. Whether you are a man or a woman, their main purpose of an anal plug is to provide sexual pleasure and enhance sexual experiences, by stimulating the sensitive nerve endings in the anus.

What is the purpose of an anal plug?

This extra cool sex toy is designed to be inserted into the anus. It is typically cone-shaped with a flared base, and it is made from materials such as silicone, latex or metal. Anal plugs can be enjoyed by both men and women, and they can be used during solo or partner play. Some people also use anal plugs for anal training, which involves gradually stretching the anus to prepare it for anal sex.

Why does a butt plug give so much pleasure?

Stimulated correctly, our nerves can give us pleasure. They release endorphins, heightening the good feeling we have during sex. And hey, ho, our butt is one of the areas of our body with the most nerve endings.

By inserting an anal plug, those nerves are stimulated intensely by putting a welcome pressure on our G-spot or prostate. For men, the plug will stimulate the prostate. And for women, a plug will stimulate the vaginal canal (which I add is amazing when undergoing vaginal penetration at the same time)

What’s the right size?

This is definitely one case where size really matters. I would definitely say that there’s a balance to be found between comfort and good stimulation.

Before we get into size, let’s talk quickly about ‘shape’. What goes in must come out! It is essential that any sex toy you plan to use anally has a flared base to prevent it from traveling up inside you.

In terms of size, there are two dimensions that need to be considered: length and diameter (or width). If you’re a beginner, start small, and then work your way up, if that’s a goal, or if you feel you need more length for satisfaction.

To get an idea, here are some average sizes in terms of length and girth:

Small is often considered to have an insertable length of 2.81'' and a girth 3.3''. A good place to start. And then as you get to know this part of your body, you can move up a size or more. Medium anal toys average 3.25” in insertable length with a girth of 4.24'' and a large is around 3.75’' insertable length and girth 5'’.

Different feels, sizes and shapes

There is a plethora of different sizes, shapes and materials used for anal plugs. And whilst they all have a similar purpose, the level of sensation can differ depending on what you choose:

  • The most common shape you can find is the classic shaft with a tapered tip, most often sold in steel or silicone. Steel of course is heavier but both are smooth and easy to clean after use. This is a good place to start. The narrow tip helps with insertion.

  • Beads are also great for beginners. Smaller, they are generally easier to insert and offer a milder stimulation.

  • Vibrating. And if you really want to let go of yourself and a little of your self-control, vibrating toys are a good choice.

  • Decoration. Tail plugs are cute if you’re looking to flash your booty! Steel toys often hold a jewel or gem at the end, making them a little extra special.

  • Material. In terms of material, silicone is good for extended wear and glass, although less popular, is lighter than steel.

How to insert your anal plug?

First of all - relax! If you’re tense or in the wrong position, it won’t work. Your muscles will tighten and your body will be in ‘reject mode’. If this happens, just leave the task for another day.

To insert a butt plug, follow these steps:
  1. Wash the anal plug with warm water and mild soap to ensure it is clean.

  2. Apply a generous amount of lubricant to the plug and to your anus to make the insertion process more comfortable. Be gentle!

  3. Gently insert the tip of the plug into your anus, using your fingers to guide it in. Don’t force it - pain is not a goal, stop immediately if you experience any discomfort or pain

  4. Once the tip of the anal plug is inserted, continue pushing slowly until it is fully inserted.

  5. Once the anal plug is fully inserted, you can move it around to stimulate arousal.

How to take it out

You are not ripping off a band aid - remove your plug with care! It is important to take things slowly and be gentle:

  1. The first step is to relax the muscles in your anus. This can be done by taking slow, deep breaths and trying to focus on relaxing the muscles.

  2. Once you feel ready, you can slowly and carefully begin to push the plug out. It is important to listen to your body and stop if you experience any pain or discomfort.

  3. If you are having trouble removing the plug, you can try gently rocking it back and forth or wiggling it to help it slide out more easily. You can also try using a little bit of lubrication to help the plug come out more easily.

It is important to never yank the plug out, as this can cause injury. If you are having difficulty, it is best to stop and seek the help of a healthcare provider.

Taking care of your plugs

Hygiene is king. It is important to remember to clean any sex toy thoroughly after each use. You can use warm to hot water and soap to clean an anal plug. Ensure that no lubricant or body fluid remains on the item after cleaning.

If someone who is not a regular partner has used one of your sex toys, sterilizing it is also an option that I highly suggest.

Pro tip: When looking for a mild soap, baby shampoo is always a good option.

More on how to clean your sex toys here.


Anal plugs are safe to use for sexual pleasure as long as they are used properly and with common sense. As with any type of sexual activity, it is important to use lubrication to reduce the risk of tearing or discomfort. It is also important to use a plug that is specifically designed for anal use and to never use a toy that is broken or damaged in any way.

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